Democratic confusion about values better than Hypocrisy

Trapped into a dilemma about a rather trivial issue the author is trying to find if in real life options he can have a behavior pertaining to some transcendental values and therefore fitting in all similar circumstances or should we differentiate our behavior in relation to the situation we are facing each time. The interesting feature though is less the solution to the real problem that the author uses as his confession that even if he had an opinion on what should one do in such an ethical question he has no right to impose on others his opinion. There is no democracy of arguments but certainly one of values, is that probably too western?